A Friend is one who strengthens you with prayers, blesses you with love and courage with people. Everyone needs friends in the fastest growing world in different part of their life. The best Friendship is the boon for everyone’s life. We have friends in same gender and also in opposite gender. We have lot of friends but someone only take a prominent place in our hearts. We tend to share everything with them. Those friendships also change the person to a modulated person than previous. But the opposite gender  friendship is occur  accidently and differently. I wanna describe about different stages of our friendship with opposite gender and how it comes to the end.

    1. Nursery Times 


Friendships may be started in your nursery times when you don’t know about gender and the different with a boy and a girl. That friendship is also appreciable. You may watch that kind of friendships in movies, not only in movies but in reality I had a best friend in my baby age from opposite gender. I have some memories with him. I know that you also want to know my memories. Yeah, We have played hide and seek games, balling, finding colors and etc. Still I am remembering that bitter incident, He fallen from the desk and I cried loudly on that day. I still feel funny when I recalling that incident.  But, He went to another place because of his father’s transfer. After that I didn’t met him again in my life. Likewise you may also had a nursery friend in opposite gender. I am sure about that because you didn’t have the enough knowledge of gender. I hope, Everyone must had such friendship and none of us not willing to throw away those golden memories.

    1. Primary School


Most of us studied in mixed school for primary education. That primary period is a gang friendship. It definitely includes some boys and girls in a gang. It may be like three girls and two boys. We always eat together, play together study together, I didn’t telling these not as personifying. All are my pages of my primary life. We separated in grade five  for secondary schools; and girls went to girls’ school. So, Our bond had broken with grade five. Did u have the same friends after the primary school? If u had like this yes; you are damn luckiest person.

  1. Secondary School

Secondary school is something different. They are separating their all activities by gender. Friendship also become like that. If we talk with boys then our classmates will think  we are loving each other. So the friendship between the boy and a girl is impaired in this period. It’s the period of falling into love and lose our balance in studies and also It’s the period to improve our selves. When Our community started to think that girl and boy friendship as just friendship then only It will become better. Finding good friends are rare.  Although, I watch some good friendships in my batch.  I also didn’t have a boy as a best friend in that time because I studied in a girls’ school. Girls!!!!  Are you like me? and also boys who studied in a boys’ school.


  1. Tuition

Our parents don’t have enough time to teach their children. So they send their children to the tuition centre.  My parents also going for work that’s why they  sent me to tuition centre. I am one and only child for my parents so I don’t have anyone to play in home. So, I went to tuition earlier than the class time and played with them. Cycling, Eating mangos, Woodapples, playing cricket, village games were the best things with my gang. They were not too close to me but by and by they become closed to my heart and get everlasting place in my heart.


This is the period school time friendships mostly come to the end by outside factors. Advanced level is the barrier thing for everyone’s life. Some of us  get into universities, joining in professional life, getting married. So the gang unwind by those reasons.

  1. University Period

We get the best friendship with boys as brothers and sisters in university life. Some come to our heart very closely. Some friendship may end with love but some remains as friends. In most cases, it’s remaining as friends. If a girl is in love and she has a best friend in opposite gender; Her boy friend doesn’t like to talk to him. So may be their friendship will come to the end. Some have  jealous on their friendship moreover they want to rupture their friendship. So They may do some certain things to rupture their friendship. I also have a best friend. I am praying god to become everlasting friendship until I breath. What about you guys? If you don’t have like these friendship, You missed a part in your life. No words to say.


  1. Work Time

 I am just a beginner of this life. So I asked some people about this and I wanna share their experience with you. In some families they are not allowed opposite gender friendship, But their friendship can continue if their working in a same place. But In future, our society must have mutual understandings and they allow opposite gender pure friendships.


     I told some reasons why friendships come to an end in some stages. But there are lot of reasons I shared with you guys. You also have some bitter memories like mine. You can share with me, the way your friendship come to the end.  Feel free to share.

“A man with millions of dollars still not RICH

If he has no Friends”

47 Comments Leave a comment

  1. Sivagini February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    Super dr
    Continue ur article… Give ur more best

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 14, 2018 Author

      Thankyou dr
      Keep Reading

  2. Sivagini February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    Super Dr
    Give ur more best

  3. Dinu February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    I love my friend, and doesn’t matter boy or girl… I had a friend. He don’t have parents. I took advantage of him like my brother. My family members are also nice with him. After some days he feel different and fall in love.. I don’t like that because I knew if my parents know that they’ll hate him and he’ll miss my family.from that i don’t talk with him and I have missed good friedship.

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 14, 2018 Author

      Thankyou so much for your valuable comment
      Yeah Dinu, I also mentioned that reason
      Keep reading

  4. Saranja February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    True fact…looking for more good articles here.

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 14, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Saranja
      Keep reading

  5. Sathananthan Nivejan February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    “One of the hardest things you will ever have to do, my dear, is to grieve the loss of a person who is still alive”
    Good writing keep it up…

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 14, 2018 Author

      Ofcourse Nivejan,
      Some losses can’t unforgettable until we stop breath

  6. Sayanthiny. R February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    Super akka…good job
    ..I am also respect the relationship in friendship doesn’t matter has with boys or girl but this relationship continue in our lifelong it’s like all …some days it’s has relationship as friend then it’s make any relationship it doesn’t like me….friendship is like a blood relation…don’t insult…
    Keep it up akka ….congratulations …

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 14, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Sayanthiny
      Nice thought of you dear
      Keep Reading

  7. Aaththy February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    Nice theme!
    A boy and a girl can be friends forever without falling love! But SOCIETY is the reason for breakups it considers about gender not friendship… i think!

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 14, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Aaththy
      I mentioned this reason no?
      Kepp Reading

  8. P.Paviththiran February 14, 2018 Subscriber

    Interesting article.friendship is the best relationship in the world.no need for breakup unless there is no proper mutual understanding.specially when it comes between a boy and a girl as u mentioned above.

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 14, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Paviththiran
      Keep Reading

  9. RAJTHANIST February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Good thenu…..i expect more from u……and pls continue this realistic writing. friends are big gift for life….in Tamil traditional says, in a person life importance like mother ,father teacher ,god….but I strongly believe in this series must have good friend before god…… .my good friends are reason for my victory and turning points of my life…….and gender is not a barrier for good friendship

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      Thankyou for your valuable comment RajThanist
      Keep Reading

  10. Muraleetharan February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Me too had a good bestie in my life. I share whole things with her she too, I know leaved me by the reason of my happiness and for save my love because my girlfriend didn’t like her by the reason of always i love my killer more than my lover. Sometime my killer talk with me till now but till i miss my old killer old friendship old closeness every thing. Finally love is the main reason to breakups the friends ship at the same time friendship doesn’t has breakup

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      I mentioned your reason also.
      Keep Reading Muraleetharan

  11. Arojan February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Can’t handle the truth..

  12. Arojan February 15, 2018 Subscriber


    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      Yeah possessiveness.
      Thankyou for mention this.I didn’t mention in my comment
      Keep reading

  13. Kanagarathnam Mauran February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Nice… i think friendship is the best gift, which god gave..

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Mauran
      Keep Reading

  14. Mauran kanagarathnam February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Nice… i think friendship is the best gift, which god gave..

  15. Sujan February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Friendship is good relationship in our life. it will getting strong day by day. Keep it up

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      That’s true
      Kepp Reading

  16. Karthi February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Nice Article dr..
    ” Don’t make friends before understand and don’t break friendship after misunderstanding”
    Good luck dr
    keep it up

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      Keep reading dr

  17. Keerthana February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    Nice akka
    It’s percent true… and I believe In true friendship because I also have friends.
    I’m very far from them and you know that.
    Hope you will do many great things like this
    Good friendship never dies.

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Keerththana for your valuable comment
      Keep Reading

  18. A. Arul February 15, 2018 Subscriber

    You wrote the reality stories of friendship. Give me more article like this.

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 15, 2018 Author

      Thankyou for your valuable comment
      Keep Reading

  19. Nivethika February 16, 2018 Subscriber

    Superb dr.. keep writing

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 16, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Keep Reading

  20. Raj Varman February 16, 2018 Subscriber

    Super d…but frd ship is not within girl and boy friend ship can occur between same peers also

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 16, 2018 Author

      I said this in my first paragraph
      I just mention here only about opposite genders
      Keep Reading

  21. Miso February 16, 2018 Subscriber

    Super akka …..keep it up

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 16, 2018 Author

      Keep Reading

  22. டெனிஸ்ரன் February 16, 2018 Subscriber

    Friendship is not breakups

  23. Jehajini February 16, 2018 Subscriber

    I love my best friends they are kind they love me

  24. Thuvaraga February 18, 2018 Subscriber

    Good keep it up Thenu

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 18, 2018 Author

      Thankyou so much
      Keep Reading

  25. Thaajwer February 19, 2018 Subscriber

    I also have some memories like you
    Thank you for remembering
    Give more

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 19, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Thaajwer
      Keep Reading

  26. Sajinthan February 23, 2018 Subscriber

    Good keep it up thenu….
    Keep writing

    • Thenuka Yogarajah February 23, 2018 Author

      Thankyou Sajinthan
      Keep Reading

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